Saturday 26 November 2011

Rain go away.

It has benn raining cats and dogs here. I hate it when it rains because I find that my pain is stronger and that my motivation to do anything is low. Does anyone else find their pain is stronger when it rains? My specialist did tell me that it has something to do with more pressure on the atmosphere, I am yet to look into this but I have heard of people being able to predict rain by how they feel.

I had plans last night to go out for dinner with some friends that I don't get to see very often but could not bring myself to go, to sore and to tired and then there was the fear that someone would ask how I was and I know I would have burst into tears, I didn't want to bring anyone down. Let's face it, no one wants to sit around watching a friend fall apart, it would have made it uncomfortable for my friends, and I wanted them to enjoy there night.
I do have a fear that they will stop asking me out since I rarely go, I hope they don't.

Speaking of friends, I am so happy to have my first blogging friend at http://ravenpain.blogspot.com, I have received some wonderful advice and support. It's funny how someone you have not met can have such an impact on how you feel. I always feel better when I read her comments, I guess it's that she understands what it's like to have the pain and depression and my other friends don't understand, not from lack of trying but until you have walked a mile in someone else's shoes you never really get it.

2 comments:

Jeanne said...

Hi!

Thank you for commenting on my blog. It's nice to "meet" you. Welcome to the blogosphere. :)

Rainy weather makes many of my chronic illnesses act up. It definitely affects my with fibromyalgia pain and it also affects my migraines. This (weather impacting symptoms) is a very common phenomenon that affects many patients. It is not uncommon for people with arthritis to be able to predict rainy weather based on pain levels. Barometric pressure can affect sinuses. The list goes on.

I'm really sorry you weren't able to have dinner with your friends.

I'm happy that you have already met online friends. You'll be amazed how many people you can meet through blogs and social networking sites... people who "get it" because they have experiences and symptoms in common with you.

It really is amazing how much impact the people we "meet" online can have in our lives. I know I've certainly found that to be true.

Thanks again for leaving a comment on my blog. It's what enabled me to find your blog. :)

Jeanne

Raven/Missy said...

Leanne, I understand not wanting to bring your friends down or upset them. I have backed out of engagements with friends for the same reason if my pain was just too high. Of course, this made me feel guilty and afraid they would stop being my friend. Sadly a few of them did just that, but not all of them. Instead of going "out" on those occasions my friends would come to my house to watch a DVD or play a game. They did not mind because they wanted to spend time with me, what we did during that time did not matter. It was through this kind of thing where I learned who my true friends were.

A true friend's focus is spending time with you, not on the specific activity that was planned. Maybe the next time they will be willing to change the plans to go out and come to your house to watch a DVD or play a game or something similar.

Rain affects my pain, as does a front moving through that doesn't cause rain and humidity as well. It is believed to be the change in air pressure that causes increased pain. I used to think it was an old wive's tale until I noticed that my pain goes up when the weather changes.

You can become quite close to people through the internet. It is a great tool, specially for someone who is disabled, to meet others with similar interests or similar experiences/conditions. Making these new friends can be invaluable and just wonderful!